On the surface, they live in long-term relationships and mostly shrug when the issue of a sex life comes up. But in confidential conversations, they reveal their innermost dreams: sex with several people, sex with men, and they’d like a hot affair with an attractive colleague.
In addition, most men want their permanent partner to take the initiative more often. “I dream that a horny woman will tear off my pants”, admits Stephen, aged 45. So meet three forty-year-old Swedish men who tell us how they really want sex.
The man is usually described as being the norm, and this also applies to sexuality. The popular myth tells us that middle-aged men are the people with complete control over their sexuality, and who live as they wish. In fact, they often repress their sexual dreams is much less well known.
Many middle-aged men can testify that they do not at all have the sex life they want. On several online forums, men complain about how they live in almost sexless relationships. Over the years, I have received many letters from men telling me about their innermost sexual desires, and that they are rather pessimistic about ever being able to live them out.