Cold hands make nobody happy. Warming your hands with massage oil on them before using it is important. Either hold the bottle under the hot water tap or take a click of oil in your hands before using it on your partner’s body.

Before you start the erotic massage, you should relax. This can be done in different ways. Look deep into each other’s eyes, breathe deeply together, hold each other’s hands, or caress your partner’s face.

A woman’s sexual responses can vary considerably from a man’s, mostly by her arousal being generally more firmly tied to her emotions. A woman can also enjoy in many different ways – through clitoral stimulation and by getting the G spot caressed. Women’s excitement takes longer to build up, but, for the most part, it lasts longer than a man’s and can be stronger than a man’s.

Many women also can have multiple orgasms, i.e. several orgasms in succession, if sexual stimulation continues after she has had her first orgasm. This is also the most important difference between erotic massage for men and for women. Since an orgasm does not impose any restriction on a woman, she does not need to hold it back, but she can give herself; however, many she wants. Sure, it’s a bit unfair…

…you should think about slowing down and maybe even stop what you are doing if you notice him approaching ejaculation. If you give him time, his enjoyment can carry on for much longer, instead of the erotic massage ending embarrassingly with premature ejaculation.

Being able to “cool off” can be a useful experience for him, as he can learn to read his body’s signals in this way, and even learn the art of having multiple orgasms, or orgasms without ejaculation.

This is best done lying on a bed – not on a table. Lie face-to-face and massage each other in the same way you previously massaged each other one at a time. Simultaneous massage can be used as foreplay or as a whole sexual act by itself – it is up to you how far you want to go…

After an erotic massage, you often feel very relaxed and satisfied, regardless of whether the massage ended with sex or not. It feels good to drink a glass of water or a cup of tea, wrap yourself up in a warm blanket and just relax for a while. Maybe sleep a whole night through, and wake up refreshed and alert, with new strength to meet the coming day.